I’m Not Socially Awkward…I’m Just An Introvert

Okay well maybe I’m a little socially awkward but that’s just part of my charm.

Being an introvert isn’t the easiest thing in the world and there are plenty of times it gets mistaken for something else. Which I totally get it if you are an extrovert and have no idea why I am the way I am… uh sorry?

But just so we get some things clear there are a few things that we should discuss so you, the world and whomever else will know a little bit more about us introverts…well, maybe not all introverts but I’m using myself as the example.

I love going to concerts but I hate being in the crowd. People in general just make me uncomfortable and half the time I don’t know how to interact with a stranger but crows are terrible. I don’t like people coughing around me or bumping into me or feeling like I’m trapped in a spot and can’t move…maybe that is not me being an introvert and there is some other bottom line…but if I can avoid crowds you best bet I’m going to.

and on that note…

Please, please, please do not call me up last minute and ask if I want to go out to go to some event. It was not in my plans for the day and I have not prepared myself to deal with that many people.

I was more than happy to spend my evening with my afternoon yoga session and home and then finishing the night binge watching whatever show I’m into at the moment and if you do call me up last minute there’s a 90% chance I’ll tell you I’m already busy…even though you know what my busy generally means.

Please don’t ask me about the weather or anything that is going to make this situation uncomfortable for the both of us. Ask me about my goals and ambitions…that’s how you’re going to get to know me…not the same 20 questions you ask when you meet someone or when you are catching up.

It’s not that I don’t want to talk to you…it’s more like small talk just makes me bored and brings out my awkward.

Going off of Small Talk ….

I recently had to go into a situation where there was a ton of people and the one person I knew left me stranded alone…There were plenty of conversations going on around me but I didn’t know them or the history of the conversation so I just sat there and listened…or looked like I was listening…In reality, I had a million other things going through my head and the main thing was WHY DID I COME…WHY AM I SITTING BY MYSELF…WHAT DO I DO

Just because I have barely said five words during the evening doesn’t just mean I don’t have anything to say. It means I am observing and feeling out the room and people. Plus people watching is one of my favorite things to do so if I am in a room full of strangers then well sorry but there’s a 90% chance I won’t be carrying on a conversation, people watching is all the entertainment I need.

I won’t stop talking and you’ll get a full-on blast of my personality.
I remember when I first started seeing my boyfriend and one of the main things he would say is…I don’t talk. But luckily at the time, he could hold up a conversation for the both of us…So again, I would just sit there listing and be thinking about the situation…

Well now…there’s times he can’t get me to be quiet and when we go into social situations he knows to just let me do my thing and don’t leave me alone with people I don’t know…but when I do go on my non-stop talking episodes, it makes him appreciate me being able to open up and talk to him.

If I ever say I’ll do something or promise something, you can damn well believe that I’ll be true to my word. I don’t do anything half-hearted and I don’t like breaking promises. I like to know that I am someone people can count on. It’s something I take pride in.

I joke all the time about how I only had 1 friend in high school and I only made a select few in college…or that I have no friends…but honestly, I love the friends that I have and I wouldn’t do well with a big friend group. It’s hard enough for me to keep up with the handful of friends that I have and to make time to see them.

And those one-on-one connections I get with my friends or loved ones, that’s where I really shine and that’s the moment they get to see me for me.

Photo by Courtney Prather on Unsplash

I’m just one introvert out of millions so I can’t speak for all of us and everyone is different in their own ways…but if you are friends with someone who has some of the same tendencies I just described…well then don’t push them to do something or to be comfortable with you…just let us get their on our own…and trust me it’s worth the wait. Some of the best people I know are introverts and it took months for us to become close and be good friends.

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